Nothing new to report, really.
Still no contact from birthmom. The agency is still hopeful that she'll call. There's a chance she'll go past her due date, which is tomorrow (August 7th). And there's also a chance that she wouldn't call until she's being discharged from the hospital, which means the baby would be two or three days old by then.
So, for myself, I think I'll be staying hopeful for a week past the due date. But beyond that, I'll start to let go.
The agency can't really put a timeline on this and say for sure when it's definitely over, so they're going to go ahead and start showing our profile again to other birthmom's. That doesn't really sound too hopeful of this situation to me. But who knows, there's always a chance.
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Update
Just a small update...
The adoption agency was able to get ahold of a birthmom's friend this morning. As some of you may know, birthmom's get some financial help during and a little after their pregnancy. The agency told the friend to pass along the message that she needs to call them or they won't be able to pay her rent for this month. So hopefully that will give her a little motivation to call to at least let us know if she's still planning on going through with the adoption or not.
They also asked the friend if she's had her baby yet and he said he didn't think so.
So at least we got some form of contact. Not sure if anything will come from it, but it's something. We'll see.
The adoption agency was able to get ahold of a birthmom's friend this morning. As some of you may know, birthmom's get some financial help during and a little after their pregnancy. The agency told the friend to pass along the message that she needs to call them or they won't be able to pay her rent for this month. So hopefully that will give her a little motivation to call to at least let us know if she's still planning on going through with the adoption or not.
They also asked the friend if she's had her baby yet and he said he didn't think so.
So at least we got some form of contact. Not sure if anything will come from it, but it's something. We'll see.
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
One Day at a Time
Adoption must be taken one day at a time. You can't get too far ahead of yourself, simply because things rarely stay the same or consistent in this process. And yes, I'm writing this because it seems that we might have a change. Or at least a bump in the road.
Yesterday the adoption agency told us that the birthmom was having a doctor's appointment later that evening. I'm not sure what OB has evening appointments, but apparently hers does. So, naturally, I was a little anxious all day waiting to hear news. I had pretty much assumed that something a little significant would happen since she's due August 7th and a week and a half ago her doctor said he wasn't going to let her go much longer.
So I waited, and waited, and waited. 8:00pm rolled around and I decided to check in with the agency worker. She still hadn't heard anything from the birthmom. Then 10:00pm rolls around and still nothing.
This morning and this afternoon? Nothing. I know the agency has tried to get a hold of her a few times, but they aren't getting anything back. They said all we can do is wait for her to contact them.
This could be nothing. This could be her preoccupied with the two children she already has. This could be her miserably pregnant in this awful Oklahoma heat. Returning phone calls may be the very last thing on her mind right now.
Or this could be everything. This could be her completely changing her mind and backing out. There's even a chance she's already given birth and can't decide if she wants to call the agency or not.
We just don't know. And we won't know until she decides to call. Oh, how I hate being so dependant on someone else for something I so desperately want! It's not a fun feeling.
I'm trying to avoid feeling stressed and worried. Those feelings only come from the devil. My God is big and my God is in control. He has this all figured out. But still, I am feeling quite anxious. I can't quite get rid of that feeling right now. I just want to know something.
But for now, we will just sit and wait. We will pray, and sit, and wait. We will try to go about life in a normal way, even though I know I'll have a terrible time pretending. I just hope we don't have to wait long. I'll take any answer, as long as it's an answer.
Your prayers for everyone involved are appreciated.
Yesterday the adoption agency told us that the birthmom was having a doctor's appointment later that evening. I'm not sure what OB has evening appointments, but apparently hers does. So, naturally, I was a little anxious all day waiting to hear news. I had pretty much assumed that something a little significant would happen since she's due August 7th and a week and a half ago her doctor said he wasn't going to let her go much longer.
So I waited, and waited, and waited. 8:00pm rolled around and I decided to check in with the agency worker. She still hadn't heard anything from the birthmom. Then 10:00pm rolls around and still nothing.
This morning and this afternoon? Nothing. I know the agency has tried to get a hold of her a few times, but they aren't getting anything back. They said all we can do is wait for her to contact them.
This could be nothing. This could be her preoccupied with the two children she already has. This could be her miserably pregnant in this awful Oklahoma heat. Returning phone calls may be the very last thing on her mind right now.
Or this could be everything. This could be her completely changing her mind and backing out. There's even a chance she's already given birth and can't decide if she wants to call the agency or not.
We just don't know. And we won't know until she decides to call. Oh, how I hate being so dependant on someone else for something I so desperately want! It's not a fun feeling.
I'm trying to avoid feeling stressed and worried. Those feelings only come from the devil. My God is big and my God is in control. He has this all figured out. But still, I am feeling quite anxious. I can't quite get rid of that feeling right now. I just want to know something.
But for now, we will just sit and wait. We will pray, and sit, and wait. We will try to go about life in a normal way, even though I know I'll have a terrible time pretending. I just hope we don't have to wait long. I'll take any answer, as long as it's an answer.
Your prayers for everyone involved are appreciated.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Puzzle Update - Week 15
In Week 15 we sold 93 puzzle pieces! Holy cow!! That definitely set a new record. 71 of those pieces came from our puzzle party with some wonderful people in Bartlesville. Then, outside of that, we sold an additional 22 pieces throughout the week.
We had a special request from someone to be a part of the rock puzzle pieces, so we went ahead and completed that section. Then we went back to the bottom of the puzzle to work on the pillow heart section again.
So we have now put together a total of 350 pieces. Only 657 left to go!
As always, thank you to everyone so much for contributing to this. We really appreciate it and can't wait to spend time going over all the names with our child.
Again, please keep sharing this with everyone you know. We have been matched with a baby due August 7th and the fees are needing to be paid quickly. We are trying to finish the puzzle by the end of August, so spread the word! Thank you!!
We had a special request from someone to be a part of the rock puzzle pieces, so we went ahead and completed that section. Then we went back to the bottom of the puzzle to work on the pillow heart section again.
So we have now put together a total of 350 pieces. Only 657 left to go!
As always, thank you to everyone so much for contributing to this. We really appreciate it and can't wait to spend time going over all the names with our child.
Again, please keep sharing this with everyone you know. We have been matched with a baby due August 7th and the fees are needing to be paid quickly. We are trying to finish the puzzle by the end of August, so spread the word! Thank you!!
Monday, July 25, 2011
We've Been Matched!!
A lot of people may know this news already since my Facebook has been exploding with it, but... We have officially been matched with a baby! We are sooo excited!!
We were at the dog park last Wednesday night (the 20th) with our good friend Amelia and her son Ryland. I heard my phone start ringing and went to look for it, but realized that the hubs had it in his pocket. As he handed it to me his eyes were very wide and excited. As I answered the phone I heard him say to Amelia, "It's the adoption agency!!"
So I answered the phone and one of the agency workers very calmly tells me the best news of my life. "Vanessa, I'm just calling to tell you that you all have been matched. I just left a birthmother's house and she chose you guys. She's due August 7th and we don't know the race or the gender."
Lots of more information and details followed. We then shared the news with our close friends and family. It was such an exciting night! The next morning I received an invoice from the adoption agency for our next payment cycle, so I guess this is pretty official!!
She had a doctor's appointment on Thursday (the 21st) and we did find out that the baby is a boy! They also measured him at 8lbs already! So considering that info, and the fact that this is her fourth pregnancy, her doctor said that he won't let her go much longer. I'm guessing when she goes in to be checked this week, he won't let her go home. But we'll see! We could be parents to a baby boy any day now!
This is such an exciting, wonderful, scary, and overwhelming time. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. We still don't have all of the funds together that are required, so please tell everyone you know about our puzzle fundraiser! We have a goal of finishing that by the end of August.
Please also be praying for the birthmother and the baby.
We are spending our evenings frantically getting a nursery and house ready for a baby boy as we wait for the "She's in labor!" phone call. I'll let you know when we know! :)
We were at the dog park last Wednesday night (the 20th) with our good friend Amelia and her son Ryland. I heard my phone start ringing and went to look for it, but realized that the hubs had it in his pocket. As he handed it to me his eyes were very wide and excited. As I answered the phone I heard him say to Amelia, "It's the adoption agency!!"
So I answered the phone and one of the agency workers very calmly tells me the best news of my life. "Vanessa, I'm just calling to tell you that you all have been matched. I just left a birthmother's house and she chose you guys. She's due August 7th and we don't know the race or the gender."
Lots of more information and details followed. We then shared the news with our close friends and family. It was such an exciting night! The next morning I received an invoice from the adoption agency for our next payment cycle, so I guess this is pretty official!!
She had a doctor's appointment on Thursday (the 21st) and we did find out that the baby is a boy! They also measured him at 8lbs already! So considering that info, and the fact that this is her fourth pregnancy, her doctor said that he won't let her go much longer. I'm guessing when she goes in to be checked this week, he won't let her go home. But we'll see! We could be parents to a baby boy any day now!
This is such an exciting, wonderful, scary, and overwhelming time. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. We still don't have all of the funds together that are required, so please tell everyone you know about our puzzle fundraiser! We have a goal of finishing that by the end of August.
Please also be praying for the birthmother and the baby.
We are spending our evenings frantically getting a nursery and house ready for a baby boy as we wait for the "She's in labor!" phone call. I'll let you know when we know! :)
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Puzzle Update - Week 11, 12, 13, & 14!
Okay, seriously?? Am I really a month behind on updating this? I'm really sorry! Our summer has been so busy, which has actually been really nice. It keeps my mind off of all of this "sitting and waiting" stuff. But I promise to do better! I've definitely missed blogging. So here we go with the puzzle updates...
In Week 11 we sold 19 puzzle pieces. What a great number for one week! One neat thing about this week, we had a family buy five puzzle pieces and wanted us to put their last name on just one piece and use the other four pieces to write Bible verses that we would like to instill in our children. I thought that was such a great idea! We actually bent the rules a little bit and did some scriptures that have been comforting to us during this time, but I'm sure they won't mind that. ;)
In Week 12 we sold 5 puzzle pieces.
In Week 13 we sold 2 puzzle pieces. Those two belong to our future child's Nana and Papa (my parents). They plan on buying two pieces every month until the puzzle is complete. :)
In Week 14 (this week) we didn't sell any puzzle pieces. But we are doing something very cool with our puzzle tomorrow. Someone from the church the hubs grew up at asked him if we would like to come hang out with their small group sometime, play games, and talk about our adoption. She also wants us to bring our puzzle with us and sell some pieces. I thought it was such a fun and neat idea! I'm really looking forward to it.
These numbers put us at a total of 257 puzzle pieces sold. Only 750 left to go!
In Week 11 we sold 19 puzzle pieces. What a great number for one week! One neat thing about this week, we had a family buy five puzzle pieces and wanted us to put their last name on just one piece and use the other four pieces to write Bible verses that we would like to instill in our children. I thought that was such a great idea! We actually bent the rules a little bit and did some scriptures that have been comforting to us during this time, but I'm sure they won't mind that. ;)
In Week 12 we sold 5 puzzle pieces.
In Week 13 we sold 2 puzzle pieces. Those two belong to our future child's Nana and Papa (my parents). They plan on buying two pieces every month until the puzzle is complete. :)
In Week 14 (this week) we didn't sell any puzzle pieces. But we are doing something very cool with our puzzle tomorrow. Someone from the church the hubs grew up at asked him if we would like to come hang out with their small group sometime, play games, and talk about our adoption. She also wants us to bring our puzzle with us and sell some pieces. I thought it was such a fun and neat idea! I'm really looking forward to it.
These numbers put us at a total of 257 puzzle pieces sold. Only 750 left to go!
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Sunday Song
So I guess I lied to you a little last week about when I would be updating my blog. I really thought I'd get to it that week, but our summer has just been so busy. I will try my hardest to update everything this week. Don't lose hope on me and this poor neglected blog!
"Indescribable" Chris Tomlin
From the highest of heights to the depths of the sea
Creation's revealing Your majesty
From the colors of fall to the fragrance of spring
Every creature unique in the song that it sings
All exclaiming
Indescribable, uncontainable,
You placed the stars in the sky and You know them by name
You are amazing God
All powerful, untameable,
Awestruck we fall to our knees as we humbly proclaim
You are amazing God
Who has told every lightning bolt where it should go
Or seen heavenly storehouses laden with snow
Who imagined the sun and gives source to its light
Yet conceals it to bring us the coolness of night
None can fathom
Indescribable, uncontainable,
You place the stars in the sky and You know them by name
You are amazing God
All powerful, untameable,
Awestruck we fall to our knees as we humbly proclaim
You are amazing God
Indescribable, uncontainable,
You placed the stars in the sky and You know them by name
You are amazing God
All powerful, untameable,
Awestruck we fall to our knees as we humbly proclaim
Indescribable, uncontainable,
You placed the stars in the sky and You know them by name
You are amazing God
Incomparable, unchangeable
You see the depths of my heart and You love me the same
You are amazing God
You are amazing God
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