Thankful for the Struggle

A few weeks ago I made a quick statement about the difficulties of adoption on Twitter, but decided it was probably something I could write a whole blog post on, so I am!

Infertility and adoption are both very difficult things to go through. Neither one are for the faint of heart. They require mental strength, willpower, determination, and a whole lot of patience. It can be so frustrating to try and pursue something when you have no idea what exactly you are pursuing or when/how it will come about.

Now, I'm not saying I'm good at any of these things. I'm probably one of the most impatient people to go through the adoption process. But yet, God has lead me to adoption and I believe with all of my heart that this is where He wants me to be.

That means that God believes me, the hubs, and our marriage are all strong enough to endure these things. I may not be excellent at it, but I am doing it because of the faith that He has in me. What an incredibly humbling experience.

When I was in middle school, I remember watching a biography video on Rich Mullins. One thing that stood out to me was when they talked about how his nephew was born with a birth defect. His sister, naturally, went through the "Why me?" stage, but Rich's response was so amazing to me. He simply told her that God thought so much of her, that He gave her a baby that would need the extra amount of love He knew she could provide. That idea has always stuck with me.

What may seem to be a tragedy or difficult struggle to us, may really be a compliment from God. He is so proud of His children and I believe He wants to show us off. He wants others to know what we're capable of and what we can do through Him.

May God's name be praised through our blessing and compliment of infertility and adoption.

Sunday Song

"Untitled Hymn (Come to Jesus)" Chris Rice

Weak and wounded sinner

Lost and left to die

O, raise your head, for love is passing by

Come to Jesus

Come to Jesus

Come to Jesus and live!

Now your burden's lifted

And carried far away

And precious blood has washed away the stain, so

Sing to Jesus

Sing to Jesus

Sing to Jesus and live!

And like a newborn baby

Don't be afraid to crawl

And remember when you walk

Sometimes we fall...so

Fall on Jesus

Fall on Jesus

Fall on Jesus and live!

Sometimes the way is lonely

And steep and filled with pain

So if your sky is dark and pours the rain, then

Cry to Jesus

Cry to Jesus

Cry to Jesus and live!

O, and when the love spills over

And music fills the night

And when you can't contain your joy inside, then

Dance for Jesus

Dance for Jesus

Dance for Jesus and live!

And with your final heartbeat

Kiss the world goodbye

Then go in peace, and laugh on Glory's side, and

Fly to Jesus

Fly to Jesus

Fly to Jesus and live!

Patience is a Virtue

You know how people say, "Be careful what you ask God for. He just might give it to you!"? For example: If you pray for patience, He's not going to give you patience. He's going to give you opportunities to be patient.

Well, I feel like that's how my life is right now. But let's be honest, I'm ready for a baby, so I have not been praying for patience in that area! So, whoever it is out there that thinks I need more patience, knock it off! Just kidding, just kidding.

But really, the waiting is killing me. Without warning, the infertility blues have snuck back into my life and they are holding on tight to my heart. I think all the busyness of needing to get so much adoption paperwork done was a great distraction for me.

But now, that's over. There's no paperwork left to do. (Granted, we do still need about $21,000 for our fees, so that should keep me plenty busy!) We are now just waiting. And waiting. And waiting. We are waiting on someone to look at our profile and think we look "nice".

Everyone keeps telling me that our baby is "just around the corner". But I don't feel that way. At all. I feel like we're in for a much longer wait than anyone thought.

I know the wait shouldn't matter, because we are waiting on the perfect baby that God has planned for us. I know that. I don't doubt that for a second. But the wait is still so hard. I've been trying to become a mommy for three years now. I just want to be one already.

But I will continue to wait. I will wait on the Lord and His perfect timing. I will try and be thankful for that crazy person out there praying for me to have more patience. And I will continue to dream about and pray for my baby every day until they're in my arms.

Puzzle Update - Week 10

In Week 9 we sold 12 puzzle pieces! Some weeks are naturally a lot lower than others, so it was exciting to see that we sold 12 pieces two weeks in a row. Especially since it came at a time when I've been really stressing about the amount we still need (approx. $21,000). God is good and reminds me time and time again that He is in control and He will provide for us.

So this week we were able to finish another heart square. Yay! And we even got one piece onto the next square. We have now put together a total of 231 puzzle pieces. Only 776 left to go!

Anniversary Getaway

Last weekend the hubs and I celebrated our anniversary with a little 24-hour getaway. There's a place in Drumright called Tidal Schools Vineyards that I've always wanted to go to, so that was our end destination. We did, however, make some other stops along that way that made for a very interesting little trip!

We went to the vineyard on Saturday, but (for some reason) I decided we should stay the night in town on Friday. Not my greatest idea. The best place to stay used to be an old hospital, but was "converted" into a motel. As you will see, they didn't change much...

Drumright Inn & Lodge

We were in the room in the middle, 130. Yeah, now you're getting the creepy hospital feeling, huh?

There was a little hallway when you walked into the room. The first opening on the right is a random kitchen and the second opening is the bathroom. Then straight ahead is the bedroom.

Hellooo hospital room!

I'm pretty sure we stayed in the room where they kept the crazy people because there was this little safe/unsafe dial on the wall. Which also had a creepy window next to it. Thankfully, the other side of the window was a closet for the room. But still, pretty creepy!

An overview of the room. You can see the weird window on the wall. We put something in it to try and make it just a little bit less creepy.

The hubs later found this in the hallway portion of our room. So we're just gonna go ahead and tell ourselves that maybe we stayed in the labor and delivery area...

We eventually fell asleep in the loony bin and checked out early the next morning! We then headed out to Stroud to have breakfast at one of our favorite places, Rock Cafe. It's a Route 66 classic. In fact, Sally from the Disney movie "Cars" is based off of the owner and cook at this restaurant.

The hubs added our initials to the bathroom wall. Hopefully it won't be another three years before we get to go again.

After breakfast, we spent some time just wandering around...doing a little geocaching and finding random Route 66 fun (we're kinda Route 66 junkies).

The Shoe Tree! Which is exactly what it sounds like. A tree where people toss their old pairs of shoes.  We brought one along to join in the fun!

Us in front of the Shoe Tree. There used to be a lot more pairs, but the original one fell down. So this is the second shoe tree started on that road.

Geocaching out in the middle of nowhere.

The middle of nowhere was really pretty!

After our afternoon adventures, we finally made it to the winery! It was a lot of fun. We had a tour of the facility, free wine tasting, lunch while a jazz band played, and then just relaxed on the patio and around the vineyard.

Despite all the craziness we encountered, it really was such a fun time with the hubs. And really, the random craziness is what made it so fun and adventurous. I love my time spent with him and am so happy we've been married for three wonderful years!

Happy Father's Day

© Jenny White Photography

Happy Father's Day to my wonderful dad! He is such a great guy that so many people love. I've been so blessed to have him as my father.

A friend of mine once told me that if she ever has to have bad news delivered to her, she wants my dad to be the person to do it. Simply because he has such a calm, easy approach to things. That's just the kind of man that he is.

And it's true, he really is good at delivering bad news! He does our taxes every year and knew this year we were really counting on a big refund, so we could put it towards our adoption fund. Well, he ended up having to tell us that we were actually going to owe $800-$900. Ouch! But he delivered the news so kindly. You could tell he was just as sad about it as we were.

He is such a great and Godly man. He's always been there for his kids and I know he always will be. Again, I am so blessed to be able to call him my father. Happy Father's Day, Dad!

Home Study - ☑ Done!

I usually update our puzzle on Thursday's, but we didn't sell any pieces for Week 10, so this will just be an adoption update.

Yesterday we had our official home study with the adoption agency's social worker. Besides the fear of a birthmother changing her mind after birth, the home study is probably the most nerve racking part of adoption. But as most things go, the stressful anticipation was worse than the actual home study itself.

Our home study only lasted an hour. With everything I've throughly researched (aka, Googled) about home studies, I was under the impression that we would be interviewed together and separately. But she simply asked us a few basic questions together.

She asked us our parents and siblings names, occupations, where they live, etc. She asked us to describe each other's personalities, what our hobbies are, etc. Then she asked really random questions such as how we divide up household chores, what our strengths and weaknesses are in our marriage, and how we resolve fights. Although there were some weird questions, everything was surprisingly easy to answer and went over very smoothly.

After the Q&A was over, she asked for us to give her a tour of our home. That lasted about, oh, two minutes. Which made me feel pretty silly about getting up at 5:00am that morning to finish all the tiny details of cleaning. There was definitely no white glove inspection.

After the tour we sat and chit-chatted for about five minutes and then she left. Easy peasy!

We are now what the adoption community calls "Paper Pregnant". This means that all of our paperwork is done and we're just waiting for a match. I selfishly hope that we don't have too long of a wait, but I know that God's timing is perfect. I can't wait to see what He has in store for us!

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Adoptions Costs
*Application fee - $500
*Postage for mailing application - $4.95
*Profile photobooks - $108.92
*Fingerprint cards - $20
*Copay for physicals - $25
*Postage for mailing paperwork - $1.28
*Postage for mailing paperwork - $1.08
*Home study - $1,000
Running Total - $1,661.23